apophenia: social scripts for rituals and ceremonies, of religion and culture
http://www.zephoria.org/thoughts/archives/2007/09/13/social_scripts.html
"I just want to be able to relax into a script every once in a while, even if that script can be annoying at times. It's not that I want the scripts to be rigid, but I want conscious engagement with and modification of the scripts rather than an outright